Western society is addicted to self-esteem. We praise people for loving themselves despite their flaws. To some extent that’s a healthy outlook, but ignoring malignant personal flaws is a bad long-term plan. No amount of self-congratulation will rid you of bad habits or make you more interesting. Being you isn’t effortless. It takes work.
When I entered the seduction community I was averse to the concept of changing myself. I thought, “How can I find true happiness if I’m being someone else?”